Josette Sona
2018
When boys are abused, they often grow up to be abusers themselves. The pain and sadness they feel turn to bitterness, hardness of heart, etc. This is not an excuse for their negative behavior when they grow up but, rather, an explanation. They may not have the strength to learn from their experiences and not repeat them. For example; when a boy is verbally abused (for example, when he's told not to cry/show emotion), he often "shoves down" his emotions - detaching himself from his feelings. Then when he grows up and is in a relationship, he often doesn't know how to act because he's been so emotionally disconnected for so long. He often learns how to be very good at pretending to care for/love a woman, which can lead to her falling in love with him and giving him everything - including free sex. (Boys often have to pretend they're not hurt when they're verbally/emotionally abused.)
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